- Want a relationship that will go the distance? Then settle. According to a new study, settling is the secret to a long and happy relationship. Yep, realizing that the grass isn’t greener somewhere else and that the person you’re with doesn’t have to be EVERYTHING you are looking for (but pretty darn close) is the secret to a lasting union. The study also reveals that dating apps like Tinder give us way too many options, making it hard to believe the person we are with is the best one for us. (College Candy